Going on dates after Chloe split felt like CHEATING, admits James Haskell as he reveals rules for future girlfriends

AFTER quietly returning to the dating scene following his split from Chloe Madeley, James Haskell thought he was ready to move on.
But the former England rugby star says one fear involving his ex-wife can still stop him in his tracks.
James and Chloe split in October 2023 after five years of marriage, just 14 months after welcoming daughter Bodhi, now three, despite appearing to have the perfect family life.
But it was the thought of publicly dating another woman while still close to Chloe – daughter of daytime TV icons Richard Madeley and Judy Finnegan – that caused James to pause for thought.
Speaking exclusively to The Sun about starring in the new series of E4’s Celebs Go Dating, James says: “It sort of felt like I was cheating because it was the first time I was dating in public in front of Chloe. I got all these mixed emotions and froze.
“For me, when you’ve got a daughter and you’ve got an ex-wife, both of them I hold in the highest regard and I want to be the most respectful I can be.
“I talked to Chloe [about doing the show] because it was really important to do that. We discussed it because I was probably getting quite nervous about doing it.
“This is very much out of my comfort zone. You’ve got emotions, you’ve got other people, you’ve got romance…
“It’s a difficult thing to put in the public eye, so I spoke to her about it. She was very supportive.
“I would talk to her about how the stuff on the show went, so she was always informed.
“And if my daughter ever watched it back, I’d want her to be proud of how her dad was.”
James admits navigating romance in the public eye hasn’t been easy off-screen either.
The former rugby star, who dated advertising executive Helen Barclay and Big Brother star Sara McLean in 2025, admits relationships come with added pressure.
James split from Sara just days after they went public with their romance at Cheltenham.
The rugby star has also been linked to other women since his split from Chloe and previously sparked speculation after being spotted looking cosy with a mystery brunette on a night out.
“I’m in the public eye and a lot of my life is centered around stuff on social media and DJ’ing and making music and podcasting stuff,” he explains.
“So I’m always very wary if you were to go out on a date and get photographed, that narrative can be created around that, which puts pressure on both people.
“I want to go on date people and have fun and when it’s the appropriate time, you would then discuss it with an ex partner but sometimes that’s taken away from you.
“So I’ve always been quite nervous. I have dated, I’ve been quite chilled out, but it’s always been quite respectful.
“That’s why this was such a big moment, because actually one of the first things I thought was ‘Oh my God. I’m like, now doing this in front of people’.
“There’s so much more to think about as opposed to just going for a drink with someone.”
James, 41, and Chloe, 38, split while their reality series, Chloe Madeley: A Family Affair, was still airing on TV.
But rather than mixing things up in the future, James reveals he’s in the market for a strong, independent woman – just like his ex.
He says: “I know what I want, I want someone that’s got intelligence, I want someone that’s got their own life, their own success.
“I’m not threatened by having a really powerful partner who could be more successful than me.
“Badass is the wrong word, but that’s the kind of thing.
“I want someone to challenge me so I can learn from them.
“I had a lot of that or had almost all of that with Chloe really, she made me a better person in lots of ways.
“When you come out of a relationship, you want to find that in someone else.
“And that’s kind of what I doubled down with really on this.”
He continues: “While looks and stuff are really important, I wouldn’t settle because all my dating technique would always be to go up to someone and speak to them, I never used apps, I would do everything in person.
“So this process was so weird because someone was telling you who you could date, which is weird.
“This was a bit like looking around in the dark and exploring.”
Fitness fanatic Chloe has spent years documenting her gruelling workouts and toned physique online – and it seems James still has a clear type.
As well as wanting a confident, driven woman, the rugby ace admits he is attracted to women who prioritise their looks, fitness and overall wellbeing. Sound familiar?
He says: “It shows a commitment, just someone who takes care of their appearance because I think it helps in other areas of your life.”
He also reveals the “real reason” he signed up to the show – and it wasn’t just for him to find his dream match.
“Being a strong man with good manners and morals and to show a vulnerable side as well as other sides is really important,” he says.
“I was nervous, but I think I managed to navigate it in the appropriate way and actually show a bit of a different side to myself than some of the bravado and the kind of stuff from being a former sportsman or DJ’ing.
“I grew a lot, I’ve obviously been separated for a little while, but I wanted to have an adventure and I’ve learnt to be vulnerable.”
And while James teases that he isn’t against tying the knot again in the future, his number one priority is crystal clear.
He says: “My priorities are very simple – my daughter, she’s nearly four. I want to be the best dad for her and provide the best kind of life for her.
“We’re obviously having her kind of 50 per cent of the time, which means that you have to prioritise different parts of your life.
“Relationships are lovely and I think if you meet the right person and obviously as we’ve gone through this process, I’ve met lots of lots of really interesting people.
“I’d say that isn’t something that is a real focus to settle down and get married.
“I think if it happens, it happens.
“But I’m quite happy in my own space, really.”
And don’t expect James to introduce Bodhi to a new partner anytime soon, as the star has one very strict rule when it comes to future girlfriends.
“Essentially I’d have to be walking down the aisle [to introduce my next partner to my child],” he says.
“Genuinely my life is very complicated. The idea of bringing somebody into my daughter’s life and putting a sort of a tent pole on the ground and saying, listen, this is something serious.
“I’m light years away from that because it’s not something I want to mess around with.
“Chloe and I are still a family. My daughter is still a family that sits over here. My life sits over here [with them].
“And I mean when is the right moment? It will be light years away.”
And any future girlfriend won’t just need to win over Bodhi – she’ll also have to impress James’ fiercely protective mum, Susie Haskell, too.
This week, Susie Haskell made her Celebs Go Dating debut, and didn’t hold her tongue.
Fearing what she could say, James told the camera: “Mum is an absolute loose cannon at the best of times.
“I am dreading what’s going to come out of her mouth. As long as she does not upset my ex.”
But Susie struggled to hold back as she ripped into Chloe.
Susie said: “I’m not sure where he’s gone wrong because prior to his marriage, I met lots of lovely girlfriends.
“Each of them just loved me, which is a bonus.”
She added: “I do have quite a strong opinion on why I think it went wrong.
“You can’t have two stars because you have them competing for the floor space the whole time.”
Susie continued: “In the past he’s been extremely popular. I’ve seen at rugby matches where elderly ladies have got very close to him.
“He needs someone who can see the softness of him, coupled with quite a brilliant intellect. He’s written seven books. Three of them are on The Times best-seller list.”
James previously admitted that his love of drinking contributed to the end of the relationship, describing their final year together as a “difficult period”.





















