I feel like a failure because I can't last long in bed

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DEAR DEIDRE: SEX is always over in a flash, and it’s making me feel like a failure.

I’ve never been able to last more than a couple of minutes before I ejaculate.

I’m 23 and have had a lot of sex since I was 18. This has been a problem every time.

My sex partners pretend it isn’t an issue, but I can tell how frustrated they are.

I’m so embarrassed I’ll say it’s a one-off, and then I never call them again.

I’m now dating a lovely 24-year-old woman and I’d really like to sort this out – so I can last long enough to give her an orgasm.

Is there something wrong with me? Why can other men last for hours?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Reaching orgasm too quickly – or premature ejaculation – is common, especially in young men.

It’s a psychological issue, rather than a physical one.

Annoyingly, the more you worry about it, the more it’s likely to happen.

Don’t run away from a woman you like because of embarrassment.

Instead, take things slowly in bed and focus on foreplay to take the pressure off.

My support pack, Want To Last Longer?, will offer practical advice.

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