DEAR DEIDRE: I’M deeply in love with my boss’s husband.

We are having a passionate affair and I truly believe I’ve found the man of my dreams.

My relationship doesn’t sit entirely comfortably as my boss is also a good friend.

She’s been so kind to me over the years.

I’m a 34-year-old single woman and she and her husband are nearly a decade older than me.

They got together quite late in life.

My boss has always been ambitious.

She set up her own beauty business after leaving college.

She currently has three salons and plans to open more.

I have been her deputy for around six years.

One night, her husband and I stayed up late at their place, waiting for her to return from a business trip.

But her drive home was delayed because there was a bad accident on her route.

She told us she was stuck in traffic and wouldn’t be home for hours.

So we watched a film, had a takeaway and a few drinks . . . and somehow, we ended up kissing.

He’s gorgeous, but I always thought he was off limits.

But since that kiss we have spent nights together in hotels when his wife is away on business.

He treats me like a princess, always buying me romantic gifts, and we have the best sex I have ever had.

He and his wife have separately confided in me, telling me that they are no longer in love and stay together for the sake of the business.

They describe themselves as being like brother and sister. I have such strong feelings for him and have never felt like this before.

But I don’t want our affair to be exposed because I know I would lose both of them.

DEIDRE SAYS: You’re likely to lose both of them if this affair continues anyway – and your job, too.

Take a step back, otherwise things are very likely to get messy and nasty.

You are likely to end up feeling used, unless he can work things through with his wife and become properly available.

By drawing a line under your affair, you’ll discover his true intentions.

If, as I highly suspect he might, he decides to stay with his wife, you have a stark choice – your job, or move on.

A fresh start could be what’s needed.

My support pack, Your Lover Not Available?, will help.

Hurt by ‘small boobs’ comment

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my boyfriend told me that my boobs were too small, he destroyed my confidence.

He said it quite soon after we first met.

I am 24 and he is 25. We have been together for eight months. I have been left feeling as though he is just making do with me.

Recently, I came across his secret stash of big-busted naked women in a file on his mobile, so that’s obviously what he likes.

I have become very self-conscious and it is difficult for me to be intimate when we are together.

All I keep thinking about are the pictures on his phone.

I wish I had a better body and keep thinking about having breast implants to please him, even though it is not something I can afford.

I don’t want to lose him, but don’t think he realises how his comment has affected and hurt me.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your boyfriend’s comment was insensitive at best, cruel at worst, and no doubt he is not perfect.

People who make unkind remarks are often deflecting from how they feel about themselves, but it’s not OK.

Tell him his comments are hurtful.

If he can’t appreciate you as a whole, and convince you he loves you just as you are, he’s the one with the problem.

My support pack, Raising Self-esteem, will help to boost your confidence about yourself.

Well-hung mate gave my girlfriend what I can’t

DEAR DEIDRE: SEX with my pal made my girlfriend scream with pleasure, and she climaxed multiple times when we had a threesome.

I am 28 and she is 26.

My friend is 29. I have been with my girlfriend for two years but have never been able to make her orgasm.

My friend is a lot bigger than me down below and I just know this is the reason my girlfriend got such a thrill.

In fact, I have never managed to make any girl orgasm and have had sex with a fair few women.

I have a small penis, which makes me feel totally inadequate.

I don’t want to let my girlfriend sleep around, but feel the only way she is going to get some satisfaction is by having sex with well-endowed men.

To be fair, she has never made any comment about my size – but I dread the day when she leaves because she isn’t satisfied or enjoying sex with me.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s important to remember that your girlfriend has chosen to be with you, so you clearly have some of what is important for her.

Focus on helping her to enjoy sex.

Ask her how you can make it more exciting.

Penis size has little to do with whether a woman reaches orgasm.

Most women don’t climax from penetrative sex, but from oral or manual stimulation of the clitoris.

You are doing a lot of guessing without talking. Good communication is key to good sex.

My support pack, Penis Size, can explain more.