DEAR DEIDRE: MY sister only speaks to our mum to criticise her. She makes life hell for both of us.
I’m a 22-year-old single man. My sister’s 24.
We both live at home. I plan to move out as soon as I can but then my mum would have nobody to stand up for her.
My mum is a lovely person and deserves better. She is 54.
She raised us alone after our dad divorced her 14 years ago.
We didn’t have much money but we still had a good childhood.
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We didn’t go out much but my mum is a great cook and keeps the house clean as well as working part-time.
My sister is so angry. She doesn’t help our mum with any chores. I do my bit but mum still does all my sister’s washing and always cooks her dinner.
I know mum dreads my sister coming home every day after work. I think she is terrified of her.
DEIDRE SAYS: In a calm moment can you talk to your sister and explain the effect her behaviour is having on you and your mum.
Your mum deserves to live in peace in her own home.
The more she does for your sister, the more she will abuse her.
This is not an excuse, but your sister’s anger may stem from when your parents divorced, especially if she has a troubled relationship with your dad.
Your mum can contact PEGS for Child to Parent Abuse (pegsupport.co.uk).