DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER years of feeling down about my appearance, I finally decided to make some changes to help my self-confidence.
Yet instead of being happy for me, my husband has accused me of tarting myself up for the men at the school gates.
I’m 38, my husband is 40 and we’ve been married for ten years. We have two sons together, one is four and the other is six.
Running around after two young toddlers made it hard to focus on anything, especially my appearance.
So after years of disliking my reflection, I finally decided to make a change. I joined the gym, bought some new clothes, and started putting a bit more time into my hair and makeup.
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I thought my husband would be pleased, but instead, he accused me of trying to get the attention of the dad’s at the school drop-off.
Whether he’s asking who I’m trying to impress or telling me I look like a tart, every morning he makes some kind of remark.
I’ve told him countless times this is for me but he just doesn’t get it. It’s really getting me down.
Deidre says: Your husband’s comments are disrespectful and instead of being supportive, he’s trying to tear you down.
You need to find a calm and quiet moment to sit down and tell how he’s making you feel. Explain to him why you’re making these changes and make it clear that he can’t talk to you this way.
My support pack Standing Up For Yourself will help.