The personal trainer, who tied the knot with Erica on the recent series of the E4 show, said there were a number of reasons for the break-up but insisted “no one is to blame”.
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Jordan, 27, bravely admitted that he has been “struggling” since they separated and said it’s hard to go through the day without thinking of happy memories with his ex.
In his first interview since the break-up, Jordan exclusively told The Sun: “It did seem like a fairytale and in my heart I believed we were going to be together forever, which is why I think it hurts so much now, as I didn’t see it coming.
“We fought through everything together, of course people saw us fight on-screen, but the amount of stuff that we fought through as a team on-camera/off-camera – we fought through so much and we were the best team.
“I didn’t think anything would beat us really.”
Jordan revealed the reason behind their split – saying the “break-up was the worst thing in the world”, but was hopeful that they could rekindle their romance after some time apart.
“It’s sad, we had a really nice conversation that we left it on and there was no bad blood, there is no anger, going forwards we thought it might not work,” he told us.
“But we even said, the way we feel about each other…maybe this is just how we feel now and we can’t move forward, but maybe in a week or two that might change – because the way we feel about each other is just so strong.”
Jordan explained that living arrangements may have triggered a few enlargements, he continued: “Making it work from Edinburgh to Sheffield – we weren’t really settled and those stresses can build up and it can lead to a few niggly arguments.
“We were looking at houses in February – I don’t think either of us saw this coming.
“But there was nothing major – breaking up with each was the worst thing in the world, but the break-up was the best it could have gone.
“There was no horrible reason why. We knew we needed to work on things like every couple, like when we argued and how we dealt with it…how I dealt with it.
“There is no one to blame, the way our lifestyle was, travelling out of a suitcase and not having a settled home and base.
“That can get on top of you and stress you out…it was an accumulation of things.”
He went on: “But because we had gone through so much together we didn’t think that would end up doing it.
“I still can’t get my head round it, I still can’t believe that we’re not going to be together going forward, not only am I heartbroken because we’re not together anymore.
“I’ve lost the future I thought we were going to have, it’s really hard to plan for the future as I’m almost grieving that I’ve lost my best friend and this person that I loved and this relationship that meant the world to me.
“The whole journey we went through was the best journey and only us will know what it was like.
“I think we were just tired, we had fought so much to get through so much, I think we lacked a bit of fight towards the end.
“It’s a real shame as I think it could have gone so differently – if we found a house in Manchester and got a job – we could still had our picture perfect future.”
Jordan said hopes of them getting back together have become slim after Erica unfollowed him and deleted some of their memories from her Instagram grid.
“In my heart I will always have that hope [of getting back together] because of the way I feel but if I go off that, I don’t think she’s following anymore on Instagram, if she’s taken off a couple of posts that really meant a lot to us,” he shared.
“It was a more of a case of ‘we don’t think it’s going to work going forward but because of the way we feel about each other, maybe we will still want to be together and try and make it work in a few weeks – but there were no promises and for now that was it’.
“I always had that hope that we could come together again and try and make it work. But it’s hard to know how she feels. I feel the longer it goes on, the less likely it is to happen.
“I need to get my head round that I’ve lost my best friend and stop feeling lost.
“There is no bad blood on my part, just love and sadness.”
The pair sadly called it quits over Jordan’s birthday weekend, just hours before the reunion episode aired, five months after it was filmed.
Jordan admitted that fears of rekindling something in the future may have been dashed after Erica watched the reunion show – which may have shown him in a negative light.
“It so frustrating that the reunion came out the same night we split, “I do worry what if it was the worst timing,” he said.
“In a really sad way the reunion could have influenced the chances of us working through this, which is really sad.
“We knew what we were like but now we’re not together and you’re thinking what is the other person thinking – are they getting blurred with what we knew compared to what everyone else thinks.
“There are things I could have done better and I will do going forward and it’s something I will have to learn from.”
The TV star said he will always have “love” for Erica and wants her to be happy – but has struggled to come to terms with his life without her.
“I’m really struggling mentally – I think I would have done anything for her, I cared about her more than anything in the world.
“To be honest, I’m just trying to survive at the moment.
“This is the first time I’ve let myself be vulnerable, these feelings I have – everything I do, I think ‘me and Erica should be doing this’.
“All I’ve done since is be around my family and be sad. I’m trying to process how I feel.
“I feel really sad and heartbroken. Our wedding song came on the other day and I was hurting so much.
“I don’t want to forget the special memories we had. As sad as it is to think back to, I’m still happy and blessed to have experienced that.
“But it just makes it so much harder going forwards that we won’t have those moments again.
“I can’t go more than ten seconds without thinking about her or feeling sad.
“It’s such a shift in mentality, we used to do everything together and laugh about stupid things.”
Jordan said he’s been supported by his family, friends and fans on his social media, but said: “Everything I’m doing right now just feels sad. It’s a real challenge mentally to get through this.
“I feel a bit lost and that I don’t have a purpose and I need to try and find myself again. It’s a real challenge mentally to get through this.
“What you do on social media, people can mistakenly judge that on how you’re living you’re life off-camera – I want people to know I am struggling, there are times I don’t want to do anything, there are times I’m literally doing something to take my mind off feeling as s*** as I do.
“But the one person you want support from and who has supported you, is the one person I can’t.
“I feel like it’s all to fill this void and no matter what you do or the support you get, it doesn’t quite fill that void.”
The TV star hit out reports of the relationship being “toxic” and said they were just like any other couple navigating a relationship in the public eye.
He said: “There’s a lot of focus on wasn’t right, well of course people clash sometimes, but people should have seen us in the great moments – we had the strongest connection.
“When there’s a break-up people want to focus on the negatives.
“We ended that conversation both in tears, we gave each other a hug and we were almost helping each other through this really sad time where we didn’t want to say goodbye.”
Jordan said he is going to take time to find himself and grow – saying: “I tried my best but it there are things I would do differently going forwards.
“It would be different if I hated her but I don’t, it’s the opposite.”
Jordan and Erica sadly announced their split last month after finding love on the show.
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