The couple have attempted to set boundaries but found the situation only got cringier from there.
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An anonymous Redditor shared their dilemma in a forum looking for advice.
She explained that ever since her fiance was little, he’s struggled with maintaining boundaries with his mother.
“My fiancé is in therapy and says they have an emotionally incestuous relationship which is toxic for them both so he’s trying to set boundaries with her so they can have a healthy relationship,” she said.
Despite their many attempts to set boundaries, their mother-in-law still doesn’t seem to understand why she can’t hug or kiss him anymore.
“She cornered me at my future brother in law’s housewarming party and told me she feels like her and my fiancé’s relationship isn’t the same anymore,” the Redditor wrote.
In an attempt to repair their relationship, the MIL invited herself on their honeymoon to talk with her son.
“Obviously I said no that’s not happening and this grown woman was genuinely shocked I said no. She kept asking why, what are you guys going to be doing that her and future FIL can’t be with us,” she wrote.
After the question was posed, the Redditor gave a blunt answer in hopes of making the MIL uncomfortable.
“I flat out told her I’d be having sex with her son all day everyday, every inch of that villa so we won’t really have time for all the things she wants to do with my fiancé,” she said.
Unfortunately, her tactic did not pan out the way she expected.
“I was wrong, she said sex isn’t that exciting for us to spend all our honeymoon doing it, ‘there’s only so many positions’ she said. She said some other things which still make me cringe a week later,” she wrote.
As a last ditch effort, the Redditor offered to plan a family holiday together next year but explained the her MIL was not taking the news well.
People took to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.
Many felt that the Redditor should not give in, no matter what, even if it means postponing the wedding.
“Recipe for disaster. Your fiance should be the one dealing with his crazy parents, not you,” said one commenter.
“Your fiance needs to step up to put up clear boundaries and enforce them. I would not get married until the parents are corralled.”
“I probably wouldn’t marry into this family until the groom/son has set some very strict boundaries and at least I’d change the honeymoon-location last minute to something totally different,” agreed another.