The former Baywatch star describes the moment in her new autobiography, which also details raunchy antics everywhere from a hospital bed to the Ecuadorian embassy in London with “frisky” Julian Assange — who she almost married after a drunken night.

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But Pamela, 55, says it was the OAP’s gentle yet firm way of steering her through sexy dance steps that has stayed with her.

She writes that his light touch on her body left her “breathless”, and the feeling of being led by a “true man” was “something I’d never felt”.

And she says of the dance, in Buenos Aires, Argentina, when she was in her 20s: “It was one of the most sensual experiences I’ve ever had.

“It changed me, and I’ve never forgotten it.”

The actress, whose wild love life has made headlines for decades, has told her own story for the first time in her memoir, Love, Pamela, which was published yesterday.

And unlike Prince Harry, she has written every word of it herself.

As she says: “No ghostwriters, no collaborators or book doctors.”

The autobiography, which has already won rave reviews, tells how she has come to accept and make use of what she calls her “cartoon image”, despite her real self being a poetry-writing bookworm.

Pamela, who has been married to five men — one twice — also reveals details of the sickening sexual abuse she suffered as a child in Canada.

She writes that she believes these experiences are what later threw her relationships off course.

Sudden marriages

Between the ages of six and ten she was forced to play sexual games with her female babysitter, who would “pay” her with used toys, such as a Barbie head hairstyling doll, and forced her into silence with threats.

At the age of 12, she was raped by an adult friend of a friend who she had been left alone with so he could teach her backgammon.

Around two years later she was gang-raped in a car by her boyfriend and up to five of his pals.

Pamela writes that as a result of this abuse, she “skipped past the promiscuity phase” and came to believe that if she actually wanted sex, she must be in love.

This could explain her famously sudden marriages.

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She wed her first husband, wild rocker Tommy Lee, in February 1995, four days after meeting the drummer. They had sons Brandon and Dylan, then divorced in 1998.

In July 2006 she married singer Kid Rock a few days after he proposed, but in November she filed for divorce.

Next up in 2007 was poker player Rick Salomon, best known for his sex tape with socialite Paris Hilton.

Pamela reveals in her book that she married him in Las Vegas on a whim, after he joked that if she headed to the altar with him he would wipe out a gambling debt owed to him by two of her staffers.

It lasted a few months before she found a crack pipe stuffed in her Christmas tree and swiftly got the marriage annulled.

By 2014 the pair had married again, but divorced the following year.

Then in 2020 came her shortest marriage, to Hollywood producer Jon Peters, whose films include Barbra Streisand’s 1976 hit A Star Is Born. It lasted less than two weeks.

In December the same year she walked down the aisle with builder Dan Hayhurst, who was doing renovation work at Pamela’s home in Canada.

They were together for just over 12 months before their split in January last year.

She admits in her book: “Men are my downfall. And I’ve tried all kinds. The common denominator is me.”

She also says her relationship with her first husband, Mötley Crüe’s Tommy Lee, “may have been the only time I was ever truly in love.”

She adds: “The rest of my life, my relationships paled in comparison.”

Pamela says she agreed to marry the rocker on a beach in Mexico in 1995 after he slipped an ecstasy pill into her champagne and “the room got warm and fuzzy”.

However, their sexual chemistry was so strong that after they got back to California she later recalled: “In those first few weeks we barely left the bedroom.

“We burned nag champa incense, listened to music and made love all day long. Being with him, I felt complete.”

And she once said of Tommy: “Our love-making was always tender, delicious — never dark or weird or trying too hard. Our bodies were in sync, we craved being close.”

A year after they wed, they were still so hot for each other that when Pamela suffered a burst ovarian cyst, Tommy made love to her in her hospital bed — while she was hooked up to a drip.

She has since recalled the encounter: “Tommy and I made love in the narrow, stretcher-like hospital bed while I was connected to an IV.

“We fell asleep in each other’s arms. There was no way they were going to be able to ask him to leave — they didn’t even try.”

Yet the book also describes rocker Tommy’s terrifying jealousy.

At the time of their marriage, former Playboy model Pamela had become a global superstar due to her role as CJ Parker in TV phenomenon Baywatch.

She was so popular that networks in some countries refused to pay for episodes she was not in.

Tommy would often watch her on set, erupting in fury if she had to kiss another man in her scenes.

Eventually, Pamela and her co-stars began making up different dialogue and cutting out love scenes if he was within earshot.

But in her book she describes being so stressed out by one of his jealous rages on set, when he smashed up the make-up trailer, that she tried to take her own life.

She swallowed a bottle of over-the-counter pain-killers with vodka, then tried to drown herself in the bath.

Pamela only survived because she threw up the pills, then stumbled out of the tub before collapsing. Her driver found her the next day and rushed her to hospital.

She also tells how at the time she was so exhausted by work and stress that she began taking diet pills that kept her awake, and as a result, she writes: “I looked like a bowlegged skeleton in a bathing suit.”

She adds that she got so thin and weak that while filming Baywatch scenes on the beach, “even the tiniest waves would knock me over”.

She says she eventually ended the marriage after Tommy threw her against a wall while she was holding seven-week-old son Dylan.

But she writes that she now believes he may then have been on steroids, and she seems to hold no anger towards him.

In the book her fury is reserved for those who made millions from sales of the infamous 1995 sex tape featuring herself and Tommy. She reveals it was spliced together from footage that had been in a safe stolen from their home.

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In one of her poems in the book she says: “We never made a ‘sex tape’. We just filmed each other, always, and lived a sexy passionate life: sweet newlyweds. Just two crazy, naked people in love.”

Last month The Sun told how in a new Netflix documentary, Pamela rages against last year’s Disney+ mini-series about the saga, Pam & Tommy, whose producers included comedian Seth Rogen.

And in the book she states: “It is unforgivable that people, still to this day, think they can profit from such a terrible experience, let alone a crime.”

But she reveals how an unlikely breakthrough came in how she thought about her image in the years after the sex tape — thanks to Julian Assange’s mum Christine.

Pamela has been a prominent supporter of WikiLeaks founder Assange, who is now in London’s Belmarsh prison fighting extradition to the US, where he is wanted on charges linked to WikiLeaks’s pub-lication of secret US documents.

She was a regular visitor to Assange after he was granted asylum in Ecuador’s Embassy in London from 2012 to 2019, calling their friendship “invigorating, sexy and funny”.

In the book she also reveals they once shared a bottle of the Mexican spirit mezcal at the embassy, then had “a slightly frisky, fun, alcohol-induced night together”.

Pamela does not elaborate, but does say they joked about marrying on the embassy’s front steps.

Later, on a trip to Australia, she met Christine Assange, who told her she “deserved a lot more respect than people gave me, especially in the media”. She adds: “But it was partly my own fault, she pointed out, because of the way I had used my image.”

Christine told her to stop posting sexy selfies, to become a more serious activist for causes such as Assange’s freedom and her animal welfare and green campaigns.

And she told Pamela, who loves poetry and philosophy, her “intelligence was being overshadowed”.

Pamela said she argued back, saying being sexy “should not conflict with intelligence”.

And in a poem that opens the book, Pamela writes: “I’ve stumbled upon a kind of love that will sustain me . . .

“A true love story — the love of self.”

• Love, Pamela (HarperCollins) is out now, £20.